Dear Annie: Boyfriend’s pursuit of polyamorous life breaks girlfriend’s heart

Annie Lane writes the Dear Annie advice line.

Dear Annie: i am seeing this person, “David,” on / off for almost an and a half and we have this long-distance relationship going on year. This really is my really first relationship, but he is been with some feamales in days gone by. Although we can not see one another as much once we’d like, we plan to fix that this autumn semester, since I have’ll be transferring up to a university that is nearer to where he lives. I am actually looking towards football that is watching together and bringing him to university parties beside me.

The main point here is i have grown to essentially have emotions for him. In reality, i do believe he is loved by me. But often once we talk, he reminds me personally that i am maybe perhaps not likely to be the only girl in their life. He informs me which he intends to return home one time to young ones — and two ladies.

He claims he want to begin seeing some other person while nevertheless dating me. Though it variety of breaks my heart, I’d nevertheless desire to be for the reason that relationship with him. We stated We’d be here for him it doesn’t matter what happens because i really like him plenty And I also stated that i am fine with an other woman. But actually, I do not think i will be.

There are lots of advantages of David: He does his “boyfriend duties.” He is here I need to rant, when I just need to feel loved for me when I’m sad, when. We text each other a complete great deal whenever we’re both perhaps not too busy. I understand he’s got work, in which he works on recording music after work, which will make life pretty busy. So some full days we don’t keep in touch with one another, that I completely realize.

I do not like to forget about him because he is become this type of part that is big of life currently.

I’d like him to be delighted and attain their desire coping with two females, and so I would not mind if an other woman is included. And when it ever reached be a lot of for me personally, i really could simply keep him (and simply take any young ones we’ve beside me and get an individual mother), right?

I do not understand the thing I experience. I would like to be with him, but I do not wish to fight for his attention. Have always been we selfish in means for wanting my man to myself, never to have to talk about him with an other woman? Exactly exactly What do I need to do? — In The Middle

Dear among: this can never ever work, in spite of how hard you try. You might be obviously perhaps perhaps perhaps not okay utilizing the concept of Mark having a girlfriend that is secondand that would blame you). Break it off, plus the sooner the greater. You are going to feel lonely for a time, although not almost because lonely that you need as you would beside someone who can never love you the way.

I’m sure that is your relationship that is first you cannot imagine your self with someone else. But you will have some other person — an individual who will think it really is a fantasy become a reality up to now simply you.

Dear Annie: we received my stimulus check in my own account two days ago. Personally I think extremely endowed. Though i am perhaps maybe not rich by any measure, I am retired, I have no outstanding debt so I have a steady income, my house is paid for and. Yes, i’ve costs: i simply paid nearly $2,000 for automobile dilemmas. But i will be just losing my “cushion” with this crash that is economic. I am perhaps perhaps not scared of losing my house, struggling to feed my young ones or spending my bills. I’m donating at the very least part of my check to Dare to Care Food Bank and also have challenged my buddies doing exactly the same — to donate to their favored charities. Will others participate in? — Grateful and desire to Share

Dear Grateful: Your generosity is inspiring. It is a wonderful concept for those that can handle it. Thank you for composing.